Comments on: Be the Kind of Person Who Says “You Can’t Make Things Tough Enough for Me to Complain” http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/ God-centered leadership (that avoids the Christian cheese-factor) Sat, 11 Feb 2012 11:04:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Department of complaints « Rockstanding http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-401 Department of complaints « Rockstanding Fri, 19 Dec 2008 21:10:19 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-401 [...] A Word to the Wise, Good Counsel | Tags: complaining, God, What's Best Next Matt Perman, over at What’s Best Next, nailed me today with a post about avoiding the temptation to complain. It’s an easy thing to [...] [...] A Word to the Wise, Good Counsel | Tags: complaining, God, What’s Best Next Matt Perman, over at What’s Best Next, nailed me today with a post about avoiding the temptation to complain. It’s an easy thing to [...]

]]> By: Jay http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-392 Jay Fri, 19 Dec 2008 16:23:23 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-392 Be nice to the people who say, "You Can’t Make Things Tough Enough for Me to Complain,” but be intolerant of those who complain. That's right. Love those who are easy to love, not the cranks, complainers, and misfits. They'll never change. The bible clearly says that the spirit of complaining is demonic and that complainers will probably go to hell. And we all know how King Solomon and the prophets were paragons of positive thinking. Be nice to the people who say, “You Can’t Make Things Tough Enough for Me to Complain,” but be intolerant of those who complain. That’s right. Love those who are easy to love, not the cranks, complainers, and misfits. They’ll never change. The bible clearly says that the spirit of complaining is demonic and that complainers will probably go to hell. And we all know how King Solomon and the prophets were paragons of positive thinking.

]]> By: Caleb http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-373 Caleb Thu, 18 Dec 2008 21:51:04 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-373 Thanks Matt for that small example. It's actually quite helpful! Thanks Matt for that small example. It’s actually quite helpful!

]]> By: Mikey Lynch http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-371 Mikey Lynch Thu, 18 Dec 2008 21:12:18 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-371 Thanks for the post, Matt. Great food for thought. Thanks for the post, Matt. Great food for thought.

]]> By: Matt http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-368 Matt Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:40:19 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-368 Good thoughts on complaining vs. changing. I think that complaining is primarily about attitude. I really believe that there are things we should take strong action on to change. But even then, we aren't to complain. Small example (very small): The windshield washer fluid wasn't working on my way to work today. That bugged me. But, my thought was: "I'm not going to complain about this to myself." But I am still going to get this figured out and fixed. Good thoughts on complaining vs. changing. I think that complaining is primarily about attitude. I really believe that there are things we should take strong action on to change. But even then, we aren’t to complain.

Small example (very small): The windshield washer fluid wasn’t working on my way to work today. That bugged me. But, my thought was: “I’m not going to complain about this to myself.” But I am still going to get this figured out and fixed.

]]> By: Matt http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-367 Matt Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:36:44 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-367 Chris: Sure. It's from Kent Wagner, pastor at Johnston E-Free (www.jefc.org). Chris: Sure. It’s from Kent Wagner, pastor at Johnston E-Free (www.jefc.org).

]]> By: Dave http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-366 Dave Thu, 18 Dec 2008 13:40:11 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-366 Complaining makes an assumption that we "deserve" something and are not getting it. When we control our expectations, most everything that happens to us is "better than we deserve" to quote Dave Ramsey and CJ Mahaney. However, I think there is a time and place to express dissatisfaction with the results of something if we honestly believe that a change can be made to improve the situation for the better. It must be wrapped in grace though. Complaining makes an assumption that we “deserve” something and are not getting it. When we control our expectations, most everything that happens to us is “better than we deserve” to quote Dave Ramsey and CJ Mahaney. However, I think there is a time and place to express dissatisfaction with the results of something if we honestly believe that a change can be made to improve the situation for the better. It must be wrapped in grace though.

]]> By: Rick http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-364 Rick Thu, 18 Dec 2008 12:02:18 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-364 Can it go another step in the direction of forgiveness? One of my mantras, one I don't stick to enough probably, is that "you can't make me not forgive you; you can't control the way I perceive your existence". In learning to forgive, I'm going to act different and not be stupid to get hurt again, but I'm also not going to judge you and assign you to hell for wronging me. Does that fit into this? Can it go another step in the direction of forgiveness? One of my mantras, one I don’t stick to enough probably, is that “you can’t make me not forgive you; you can’t control the way I perceive your existence”. In learning to forgive, I’m going to act different and not be stupid to get hurt again, but I’m also not going to judge you and assign you to hell for wronging me. Does that fit into this?

]]> By: Chris http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-363 Chris Thu, 18 Dec 2008 11:38:24 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-363 My thoughts on the question of whether it's always sinful to complain: To me complaining has a connotation of having a bad attitude, lack of gratitude, critical spirit, etc., which is what makes it different from noticing that something isn't right and addressing it. My thoughts on the question of whether it’s always sinful to complain: To me complaining has a connotation of having a bad attitude, lack of gratitude, critical spirit, etc., which is what makes it different from noticing that something isn’t right and addressing it.

]]> By: Chris http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-362 Chris Thu, 18 Dec 2008 11:36:08 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-362 That motto is for me--thanks for the challenge! Can you share the name of the person you are quoting so I may give proper credit when referring to the quote? That motto is for me–thanks for the challenge!
Can you share the name of the person you are quoting so I may give proper credit when referring to the quote?

]]> By: Caleb http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-352 Caleb Thu, 18 Dec 2008 06:16:43 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-352 Do you believe that it's always sinful to complain? Are there ever any good reasons to complain? Is complaint ever an indication that you need to change something about your circumstances or what you're doing? Do you believe that it’s always sinful to complain? Are there ever any good reasons to complain? Is complaint ever an indication that you need to change something about your circumstances or what you’re doing?

]]> By: Married to a Baller · Something I Have Been Thinking About http://www.whatsbestnext.com/2008/12/be-the-kind-of-person-who-says-you-cant-make-things-tough-enough-for-me-to-complain/comment-page-1/#comment-351 Married to a Baller · Something I Have Been Thinking About Thu, 18 Dec 2008 04:42:37 +0000 http://www.whatsbestnext.com/?p=554#comment-351 [...] post resonated deep in me when I read it this morning.  This is the kind of person I want to be!  I [...] [...] post resonated deep in me when I read it this morning.  This is the kind of person I want to be!  I [...]

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